Or better yet, they sit in the comfort of their own home, surf the web, and hunt you through your status updates and Facebook photos you get tagged in. Yes, that was us in the Dominican, frolicking on the beach. While I’d like to believe the best in everyone, that they are merely looking out for me, I am not so naive.
I am waiting for the proverbial poop to hit the fan. They can simply spy through the blinds across the street or stalk her house at all hours of the night pretending they were “just stopping by to say hi”.
In the end, it took some time and some sexy new bras to get me enjoying it instead of dreading it. This is probably the question every widow will hear some variation of at some point or another.
That they lost their soulmates and that they will never find that again.
I wipe my slick palms against the thigh of my jeans, gnawing nervously on my thumb’s shredded hang nail. What’s it like to date again after you are widowed? And, to be frank, I had zero interest in ever being in it again. I fumbled, made some mistakes, and, yes, had some fun too.
Well, given the number of people in the world…what are the chances of you dating that one person who has led a perfect life? We’ve all been through transitions with relationships in our lives.
Our friendships have changed…how we interact with our families has changed.
They don’t feel like there is anyone who will understand what they’ve been through and accept them for it.
Shoot…I remember thinking, “What if I meet someone and we’re talking and I…
You can let your “freak flag fly” as they say in (I love that movie).
And because of that, even if your friendships are fewer, they’re more meaningful. Those friends who have weathered the storm with you will always be there. And my sense of humor has taken a downward turn into the land of Sick and Wrong.
Those friends who couldn’t…well…I hope you’ve come to the level of acceptance that that’s your’s. If that person was your soulmate I think that’s the closest to Algebra I’ll ever come in my adult life. The truth is, I’ve changed so much that even if my husband met me NOW I don’t know if he’d even ask me out. So…if different…why would I expect to find the same relationship?