It’s called the sex ratio – the number of men for every 100 women. excess of women over men), social mores are relaxed, women go out a lot, and everyone has a ball. excess of men), people go out less and attitudes are more conservative.No one knows exactly why this is, but it makes sense. whole countries like Russia) and smaller ones (e.g. According to the latest singles map from the 2006 US Census, New York has a 211,000 surplus of single women over single men, while LA has 89,000 more single men than women.
It’s 20 miles through one of the most car-jammed concrete jungles on the planet, with no efficient public transport to speak of. And so the activation energy of meeting someone not nearby goes up.
Physics tells us that the higher the activation energy, the less frequent the event.
The higher energy required for making a date means that it happens less often. Transportation challenges make even the best-intentioned people flaky.
Traffic in LA is unpredictable; as a result, even the best-intentioned people end up being late more often than they wish.
Lack of public transport also means that people stay sober enough to drive back home.
As a result, the social lubricant effects of alcohol don't operate in the same way as in a city with public transport.
That casual contact is missing in LA, because we spend a lot of time in our wheeled steel cages.
As as in the song by Missing Persons, “Nobody walks in LA.” And if you want to meet someone again, you have to coordinate busy schedules, make a one-on-one date and travel (see #2) – a higher-stakes proposition than bumping into someone and grabbing an apropos drink.
Now after six years of being in this town, conducting dating seminars, answering thousands of readers’ letters and writing , I’m pretty sure that Los Angeles is a particularly tough city to be single in – perhaps the toughest in the US.